My Kid Is 3 and Not Fully Potty Trained and I am Okay With That

There is so much pressure that comes with potty training your toddler, and I am so TIRED of it. So with my second kid, I didn’t even think about potty training him. I never designated a certain age to begin nor did I switch his cloth diapers out with training pants.

The reason for not wanting to train is that I remembered all of the pressure to potty train my first kid. It literally started from the time he turned 1 until he was fully trained by 2.5 years old. The pressure came from family and even a few friends. I was honestly confused as to why everyone was worried about my child’s ability to use the bathroom alone.

I caved in to the pressure and trained him. Initially I was told to take him every 30 minutes around the clock. Exhausting right? Well, I did it. It didn’t work, it only made him extremely frustrated with me and the potty. At that point, I switched him from disposable diapers and only put him in underwear. I quickly found out that he hated to be wet, and even if he wet the undies he’d immediately take them off and want a new pair. After a few days of that he started going to the bathroom alone. He was about 20 months at this point. I didn’t realize the amount of pressure I was putting on my boy back then. He was only going because he hated to be wet, and he hated even being wet by the sprinklers or wasting his drink on himself.

There was also pressure to potty train him because I was pregnant with our second child and I didn’t want two kids in diapers. Who makes this stuff up? I’d never thought about that before hearing it from someone else. Lol. By the time my second child was born, my 23-month-old was fully trained, day and night.

Even though I liked the results of him being fully trained I knew that I didn’t want to feel that pressure with my second child. So, we have ultimately taken it slow, and I waited patiently on his first signs of wanting to use the potty.

Top 3 top signs your child may be ready for potty training

  1. Hiding. The first sign I noticed was my child hiding to pee or poop.
  2. Dry Diaper. I noticed that my child’s cloth diaper would be dry after naps, and sometimes in the morning.
  3. Imitating an older sybiling. My kid would try using the potty when his big brother would go.

Remember that potty training is not a race, it is a developmental journey.

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  1. I’m with you … no need to rush it! You’re so right: It’s not a race, it’s a journey.